Parenting gets easier. The newborn stage is rough. But it ends. The baby stage is also hard, but it also ends.
Each step of the way with parenting, there are hard parts and fulfilling parts. Each step of the way you move on to the next and then one day look back and wonder when it ended.
If your in the midst of a particularly hard stage, try and keep that in mind; it is hard while you are going through it, but it will also be over soon. Most of the time you aren’t even aware that it’s ending until you look back and realize that it’s gone.
I think when the parents who comment “enjoy it because it goes so quickly” offer their unsolicited (and often annoying) advice to newer parents, it is this that they are referring to – yes, it goes by quickly and suddenly you are out of that stage without even realizing it has disappeared.
So to new parents, this is my thoughts – when it’s hard – I get it. It stinks, but know it’s not forever. It’ll change, it gets easier and harder at the same time. It’s different that before and often more fulfilling.
When it’s easy, when it’s fulfilling, savor it – this too will change. There isn’t so much a set path in parenting, but a winding road with many, many intersections that you can choose. Some of those will have mountain top views. Others will take you through a difficult valley. The thing to keep in mind is that the scenery is always changing – little by little and if you blink, you’ll miss it because it’s so gradual.
Enjoy the moment. If you are climbing uphill, know it will eventually flatten into a plain. It’s not always hard, it’s not always easy – most of it is monotonous to the point that you don’t even realize how quickly it’s passing. You’ll make it.